This post will be brief. First and foremost, I am not sure how to not make it seem like they were wrong because they weren’t. My parents only had one. They would had have three but that wasn’t in God’s plan for them. So their doting wasn’t because they were indulgent but because they felt blessed to have at least me.

It took me a while to get this, and it took me until two years ago to let go of it. All they ever wanted was for me to be happy. All I saw as a kid and teen is I had to be perfect for them. But that was farthest from the truth. They just wanted my happiness.

Why do I bring this up. Not to vilianize parents of onlies. They just really want what parents of multiples want. They want for us to be healthy and happy. But their focus is on only one, only us. So what I have found is that as an only we want to ,are them proud, we want to be perfect. It is no ines fault it is just the perception we have.

So from to you as the parent of an onl, she. You see the, trying to be perfect, please stop them. Let them know it’s okay to meds up and not to be perfect. Because at the end of the day, as many times as I have messed up, the sun still rises and sets with me and all my imperfections. And that, at 46 and finally realizing that is absolutely and completely liberating.